If you’re facing the hurt, the doubt and the loneliness of a recent breakup with your boyfriend there are some things you can do to win him back and some things you have to avoid at all costs. So if you’ve just said “my boyfriend broke up with me” the tips in this article can help.
For most women who are going through a breakup the tendency to try to contact your boyfriend to ‘talk some sense into him’ is almost overwhelming. It’s hard to resist, but if you want your boyfriend back you have to resist the urge to contact him.
Men aren’t known for their strength in dealing with emotions, theirs or yours. They often shut down and run away. Whatever reason your boyfriend had for breaking up with you it’s imperative that you give him space.
Men are also known for being ego driven. If you constantly try to cling to him this might feed his ego but it’s unlikely to help the two of you re-unite.
If he still cares about you this space will allow him time to remember the wonderful things you’ve shared and to miss you.
It’s also important for you to live your life. Go out with friends and genuinely try to be happy. I know this may sound ridiculous but if you try you’ll be surprised at how much better you can feel.
The fact is no one wants to be around someone who is miserable. If you try to use your unhappiness to ‘guilt’ your boyfriend into taking you back this will not only not work but it will just make you seem needy and pathetic and make him want to run far, far away.
A little distance is good for you too. The two of you broke up for a reason. Some space might give you the time to figure out what went wrong. Spend this time trying to improve yourself, not just to get him back but because you want to be the best ‘you’ that you can be. Now is a good time to honestly evaluate yourself and make the necessary changes.
Taking the time to find and fix yourself will make you come out stronger no matter what happens. If the two of you get back together you will have a better chance of making your relationship work and if you don’t get back together you will be a better person and have more of a chance of finding a stable relationship next time around.
So if you’re asking the question: “My boyfriend broke up with me, now what?” then it’s time for you to follow the advice above. It’s the best way to get yourself and your boyfriend back.
