Or put another way, schedules run the show.
Perhaps you don’t consider yourself the All-American family. Okay.
How do you usually answer this question: “So, how are things?”
My guess is the simple reply … “busy.”
If your schedule is jammed packed and runs the show, have you ever stopped and wondered if you’re too busy for your marriage?
If your answer is yes, why do you suppose we allow ourselves to stay so busy?
I’ve seen many couples in my counseling practice who claim that their marriage is a priority but their actions display anything but.
Truth is:
We make time for the important things in our life.
I play basketball at lunch time several times a week. I have for years. It’s tough to take that time out of the middle of the day, but I find a way to make it happen. Golf may be the thing you find time for. Or trips to the bar. Guys weekends. Hunting. Whatever it is, if it’s important enough to us, we find a way to make it happen.
So the question to hit you right between the eyes…
Where does your marriage fit on your list of importance?
If you’re like I was, my wife went up and down my life importance list. When I was interested in sex, she would climb the ladder of importance. After that need was met, she would fall down the list again. When I was down about something, I would seek her out in order for her to help me feel better. Once my mood was propped up, I was off to my own agenda again.
If you desire a marriage that is fully alive, it requires you to be honest with yourself and be more present and involved in the important aspects of your life.
Making time for your spouse will require you both to face the issues that get the in way of the time together.
It very well could be that you both stay busy in order to save the marriage. Your busyness keeps you together, because if you slowed down and spent time together, the issues, resentments, disappointments, frustrations, etc. would come front and center.
If you discover this is the case in your marriage, seek professional help. I’ve even created a guide to help in choosing the right counselor. At the very least, be honest with yourself, and then your spouse.
If marriage is important to you, show it in your actions.
Learn to say no to other schedule filling items in order to be together.
Do less.
Limit your kids to one activity a week.
Have a regular date night.
Making time for marriage requires more from each spouse. But the beautiful thing is, you are both capable of giving more to the marriage. And in return, you experience more in the marriage.
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