Growing bored in a long-term relationship is natural; it’s only human. After years of being together, feelings of being stuck in the same routine are natural. When you’ve been with the same person since high school, you find yourself wondering sometimes what it would feel like to be with someone else for a change. What if it hadn’t worked out? If you’ve spent most of your early twenties being in a relationship, you miss bachelorhood. You miss the thrill of one-night stands, the rush of flirting with that hot girl on the dance floor, the abandon of buying a one-way ticket without having to answer anybody.
When you spend each day with the same person, you get comfortable with them but a sense of boredom also creeps in. The other life seems more exciting. Office parties, friends get-togethers, music concerts – you see plenty of other people and know it’s the world out there. It’s difficult to be emotionally loyal. Even if you love the other person dearly, it’s difficult to convince yourself this is it. Am I missing out on life? – you ask yourself. But then you love them so much. You find their company comforting and assuring.
If you’ve fallen out of love with them, it’s okay to call it quits. But if you are miserable only because you are bored and your relationship doesn’t seem as exciting as before, you need to rethink your decisions. Tell yourself why you love them, why their presence in your life is indispensible, why you long to see them after a tiring day. If your love for them outweighs your boredom with your love life, hold on to it with both hands.
Work the boredom out, because deep down you know how you love them. Don’t get bogged down by the seemingly dull nature of your love life. Reinvent your romance time and again. don’t be under the impression that real love needs no work. Even Romeo and Juliet, had they been real and lived on to settle down together, would have experienced their share of ups and down in the relationship. No relationship is ever perfect.
A relationship will not always be hunky dory and make your world go round. Love is not supposed to be like that. A mature relationship is when you want to grow old together. It’s when you are so comfortable in each other’s presence that you no longer feel the need to impress and act. It’s when after a long hard day at work, you find comfort in the fact that you will get to see that one person who makes every pain melt away. Love is when you can’t bear to share your life with anyone else.
But love doesn’t guarantee a smooth relationship. You have to make it work. You could be bored even if you are in love. You could be eyeing a different life even if you look forward to returning home to that one person. Because not all days are alike. One day you could be missing them terribly, another day you could find their presence intrusive in your personal space. There are hundreds of things that will try your relationship. The one constant is the way you feel. Every hurdle can be dealt with as long as you feel special in their presence.
Just remember no love tale is perfect. At the end of the day, love is just about finding friendship with someone you love; it’s about finding that sweet spot with someone. As long as you are comfortable with them and love them completely and selflessly, a little boredom is something you can deal with.
Article from: RELATIONSHIPS, by MensXP Team
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